If you want to get over your failed relationships like an adult, instead of acting like a lovesick teenager curled up in bed crying all day or a walking sitcom cliche who eats ice cream in bed watching bad TV for weeks between bouts of arguing with your ex and looking for revenge, here’s what you need to do:
Seek a Solicitor
If you’re married or you have joint assets shared with your ex, the first thing you’re going to want to do is employ legal experts with vast experience of handling divorces, such as Austin Kemp Solicitors. By doing this, you can leave the process in their hands so that you don’t end up in too many heated arguments over money or whatever with the ex – let your solicitor deal with it, and you can work on getting on with your life.
Block Your Ex
It’s really tempting to stalk your ex on Facebook or Snapchat and the likes when you’ve broken up, but that just keeps you moping around like a teenager obsessing over them for way longer than you ever would have done in the past. Anyway, you need to move on and stalking your ex isn’t exactly healthy now, is it? Block them and never look back. It’s your time to heal, and you shouldn’t let social media jeopardise that.
Get Rid of Reminders
If you have any reminders of them hanging around the house, box it up and send it back to them, or if it belongs to you, consider donating or trashing it. This will help to stop you wallowing and enable you to create a fresh start for yourself. If you can’t bear to part with them completely, at least box them up and hide them in a drawer or even better take pictures of them and save them on a hard drive, so that if you want to look back on your time together in years to come, you still can without having constant reminders around.
Don’t Trash Talk Your Ex All the Time
Sure, it might help to blow off some steam and get over the relationship if you have the occasional bitching session with your girlfriends, but if you’re still trash talking your ex weeks or months after the breakup, it’s only going to prolong your suffering and make everyone think you’re bitter. Get it out of your system and then move on.
Don’t Drink Alone
If you drink to drown your sorrows and you do it alone, you run the risk of drunk dialling or making other bad decisions to try and get over things. If you must drink, do it in the company of good friends who will stop you making a fool of yourselves and don’t drink to excess.
Go Outside and Have Fun
The worst thing you can do after a breakup is shut yourself indoors with Coldplay on the stereo crying into pint after pint of ice cream. Get out there in the fresh air which will clear your head, have fun with friends and start thinking about the future instead of the past.
Breakups really don’t have to be bad!