I have seen lots of posts going around on facebook for “the motherhood challenge”, post 3 photos which make you happy to be a mother and nominate people who you think are great mothers. First of all nobody nominated me…does that say something about my mothering abilities? But mostly my thoughts were of those Mums (and Dads) who are struggling and how skewed facebook is; with loads of pictures of happy smiling families makes you sit and think “am I doing something wrong?” if your kids aren’t happy and smiley all the time. I’ll let you into a secret: no children are happy all the time, in fact they are little horrors most of the time.
So I have chosen some more realistic photos to share with you.
This is me most of the time: tired, no make up and in baggy sweatshirt and joggers (or in this case a dressing gown, but you get the idea)
I don’t even remember why my kids were crying at me this day. I had probably told them they had to come off the iPads, or they need to eat dinner before pudding.
Kids cry and often for little or no reason.
This is the worst! When your babies are ill and you cannot do anything to help them, they are begging for your help but all you can do is offer a hug. Heart-breaking!
She came downstairs cranky, I don’t know why. Maybe something going on at school, or maybe she just didn’t sleep well. But boy was she in a mood with me!
When they sleep on you and you have a million things to do but can’t get on because they kid needs you as a pillow and they wake up and cry if you move.
Life isn’t all buttercups and fairies with children, life is hard. You are not alone if you are struggling, talk to someone, they will understand and if they are a friend they won’t judge you, they will just support you.